Thank A Mother — Revisited

If you are in a relationship with — or married to — a man who you love because he respects you, provides for you, and treats you like his queen – thank his mother. While no rule of behavior is set in stone, there is much truth to the adage that the way a man treats his mother reflects on how he will treat you.

We’ve all overheard conversations among women where the subject is mother-bashing — not their own mother, but his. Some women feel that they have exclusive rights to the man in their life, whether he is their husband or longtime boyfriend, and they view his mother as the “other woman.”  Perhaps it never occurs to those anxious women that

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A Tribute to American Bandstand and Soul Train: Rock and Soul

Many Boomers bemoaned the loss of  Dick Clark, the 82 years young, 30-year host of “American Bandstand” who died of a heart attack on April 18. Two months earlier on February 1, Don Cornelius, the original “soul man” and long-time host of the nationally syndicated “Soul Train” was found dead of a self-inflicted gunshot wound. He was 75.  In spite of the fact that Clark was white and Cornelius black, their “rock and soul” music and dance programs attracted fans of all ages across racial lines and there is hardly a Boomer alive who does not remember them.

American Bandstand became regular viewing at our home sometime in the late 1950s, when my dad – who loved to dance – discovered the show while switching channels in search of a Randolph Scott or John Wayne western. In a few weeks, I too had become a loyal “Bandstand” fan. And years afterward, I looked forward annually to watching “Dick Clark’s New Year’s Rockin Eve.” As I was to learn, so too did many of my friends.

One New Year’s Eve, in the late 1970s, I was hosting a party in my apartment. My guests were dancing all over the place to a funky tune by Earth, Wind and Fire. At around 11:45 p.m. someone lowered the volume on the stereo (to the delight of my neighbors, I’m sure), and then switched on the television set. Everyone stopped dancing long enough to gather around the TV for the balldrop and countdown, and we all joined Dick Clark and the Times Squares revelers in a rousing “Happy New Year!”

In 1971, when “Soul Train” rolled onto the airways, I climbed on board. Cornelius, the train’s metaphoric conductor and literal host had viewers nationwide trying to imitate the fancy dance moves of Damita Jo Freeman, Joe Chisum, Patricia Davis and other members of the “Soul Train Gang.” In its early days, as the kids today might say it – “Soul Train” rocked!

Cornelius fans can only wonder what demons led him to take his own life, but when yours truly thinks of the soul man’s last moments on this earth, I imagine him signing off with his signature catchphrase, “In parting, I wish you love, peace and soooul!”

It seems ironic that both Cornelius and Clark, two men who brought so much musical entertainment and joy to the Boomer generation would die within months of each other. They were a dynamic duo of rock and roll — and rock and soul — and they made us get up and dance.

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Face On, Face Off

Ladies, would you dare to take if off — take it all off — and then show your face in public?  I’m not talking about  revealing your birthday suit, I’m asking are you self-confident enough to appear before your significant other, friends, co-workers or strangers without makeup? Are you a woman who won’t leave home without it or do you feel comfortable going about your business with a naked face?

Excluding the entertainers who become unsuspecting victims of quick thinking shutterbugs or relentless paparazzi, away from the limelight, some female entertainers are voluntarily baring their faces and letting the world see them as they really are.

A few years ago, Tyrah Banks removed her makeup and did one show au naturel on her daily TV program. Occasionally, other celebs are spotted in public without the painted face:  Mariah Cary, Hoda and Kathi Lee, Barbara Streisand, Jennifer Hutson, Halle Berry, Jennifer Lopez, Oprah, and the list goes on. I wonder if going natural away from the spotlight is becoming trendy for celebrities or do they just grow tired of wearing the mask?  Regardless, there are probably numerous entertainers who wouldn’t be caught dead without their face on for whatever reason.

“When you are sporting grey hair with a makeup free face, that’s crossing the line.”  Imagine the pressure for celebrities when they read stinging comments like that one captioning a series of “before and after” photos by Joanna Sloame (New York Daily News).

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