This is an update of a post that I published on this site nearly twelve years ago.
“When you make loving others the story of your life, there’s never a final chapter because the legacy continues. You lend your light to one person, and he or she shines it on another and another and another.” ~Oprah Winfrey
Traditionally, Valentine’s Day is the day when many of us acknowledge that special someone or significant other in our life. But as is evident by the various greeting cards and gifts we exchange with our nearest and dearest, Valentine’s Day is not just for lovers. So, along with this Valentine’s Day wish to my family and friends, I’m sending Valentine’s Day greetings to the special men who are present – or have previously been – in my life.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my Boo. For over two decades, you have been my lover and constant companion. Those little things you do mean so much, as do the countless occasions when you proved that you are there for me. You provided solace when my parents died. And remember the time when I was on crutches? You made sure that I had everything I needed before you went to work. You prepared the meals, did the laundry, and took care of all of the things I usually would have handled myself. Not only are you better than I at remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and special occasions, but you know how to tug at my heartstrings when you surprise me with thoughtful “just because” gifts of flowers and other things.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my dad. I miss you so much. Before God called you home, fifteen years ago, we had a special bond. You and mom were the foundations of our nuclear family. The two of you raised my siblings and me to be our best selves. For you, dad, I paraphrase a verse from a poem by James Kisner, “To others you were a simple man, ’cause fame you never had, but you were the greatest man to me because you were my dad.”
Happy Valentine’s Day to my son. I am so proud of you and all that you have accomplished. Had you been born two days later, you would have been a Valentine’s Day baby, but you are my valentine every day. Not only are you a special son, but you are also a devoted husband and an exceptional father to your son, who I believe will grow up to have all of the ambition, the wisdom, and other attributes of his dad.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my brothers. What else is there to say besides I love you?
Happy Valentine’s Day to my grandsons. Hugs and kisses to you fine, upstanding young men. I love you all so much.
Finally, Happy Valentine’s Day to my first love. When we met, we were a few short years beyond being childhood sweethearts. As we grew older and went our separate ways, our hearts remained entwined. For over 30 years, our friendship and feelings never waned, and when you departed this world, part of me went with you. You will always hold a place in my heart. Happy Valentine’s Day L.A.B. You were among those who women call “the one-in-a-million” men. Gone, but never to be forgotten.
And to all my readers. If you don’t have a special someone, then be your own valentine.
Happy Valentine’s Day!